Resources

Platform founded in 2008 by John Baku (John Kopanas) and run by the company BitLove (Canada and Cyprus), which presents itself as the most popular social network for BDSM, fetish and kink communities: profiles, discussion groups and an events calendar.

Local groups announce their meet-ups there: Munch Lausanne, for example, only gives its address to people who have signed up for the event on FetLife.

Free to join; most features are free too, a few options are paid. Restricted to adults (18) under the terms of use; the operator reserves the right to require ID. Interface available in French. A pseudonym and photos with no face or distinguishing marks limit the risks if content circulates outside the site. According to the privacy policy, a deleted account is erased within seven days, certain content within thirty days. Several moderation choices have been criticised: in 2012, a rule forbidding members to publicly accuse another member of a crime led to the removal of posts naming alleged abusers (Salon); in January 2017, hundreds of groups and thousands of fetishes were deleted under pressure from a payment card issuer (Vice); in October 2020, members denounced racist and antisemitic content left online (BuzzFeed News).

Dating app launched in 2014 under the name 3nder and renamed Feeld in 2016 after legal action by Tinder, published by a London-based company. It is aimed at “open-minded” people exploring non-monogamy, kink and other forms of relationship.

Lets you look for partners without hiding a non-exclusive relationship or an interest in kink; profiles can list sexual interests, which makes a first conversation about desires and limits easier.

Free app, with a paid subscription (Majestic) that renews automatically every month and adds search filters, among other things. Restricted to people aged 18 and over. Interface available in French. The app collects geolocation; according to its privacy policy, data from a closed account is generally deleted after three months. In March 2024, the security company Fortbridge reported flaws that made it possible to access photos and videos exchanged in private conversations and to modify profiles; Feeld announced that it had fixed them in August 2024, without any public alert to users (The Register, September 2024). It is not a BDSM-specific platform.

French podcast hosted by Thomas V. (aka Lefauxbreton) in which people who practise kink and BDSM talk about their journeys, in what the show calls a “munch spirit”.

Lets you hear the diversity of practices and paths in French, with regular reminders about consent and definitions of the SSC and RACK frameworks in the episode descriptions.

Testimonies from practitioners, not from health professionals; some episodes discuss professional domination or contain product placement.

French sex education podcast hosted by Camille Bataillon, alone or with guests, which devotes several episodes to BDSM.

Targeted episodes such as “BDSMK & Traumas” with Fiona Bourdon (September 2026) and “BDSM dans le couple” with Morgane Beauvais, within a general sex education approach.

General-interest podcast: only some of the episodes are about BDSM.

French podcast from Bliss Studio, narrated by Clémentine Galey since 2024: in each episode, one person tells the story of their intimate life, unfiltered. One episode every two weeks.

A gentle way in for someone vanilla or simply curious: ordinary lives, told without judgement, in which consent comes up often. Episode 64, “Sam, masculinité non toxique” (Sam, non-toxic masculinity), talks in particular about “découvertes BDSM tout en douceur” (very gentle BDSM discoveries).

Neither a BDSM podcast nor a sex education podcast: these are personal accounts, chosen and edited by a brand that also sells products. BDSM remains rare in it.

Report by Swiss public radio in which a group of six people explores BDSM play under the eye of Lausanne sex therapist Vanessa Langer.

Shows concretely how supervised practice helps people recognise and set their own limits, as part of a five-episode series on consent.

Episode posted in the Vacarme feed on 6 September 2026; another episode in the same series gives a first broadcast in 2017, and the recording date of this one is not specified. Vacarme publishes every week.

Episode of Charlotte Bienaimé’s monthly podcast on fantasies of violence and submission, combining personal stories and analysis from researchers.

Tackles an often taboo subject without guilt-tripping and helps you think about the gap between fantasy, consensual play and violence suffered.

Episode published on 28 October 2025; explicitly feminist perspective.

Quebec podcast by Lysandre Nadeau and Joanie Grenier that approaches sexuality from many angles with guests, including several episodes on BDSM and kink.

Includes in particular an episode on what the law says about consent, STBBIs and BDSM with lawyer Sophie Mongeon (July 2025).

Humorous tone and catchy titles; general-interest podcast, so the BDSM episodes need picking out.

Quebec podcast hosted by Caroline Lemay on quality consent, sexual ethics and power dynamics in relationships.

Offers in-depth reflection on consent and control in relationships that carries over to BDSM negotiations.

Last episode on 19 January 2023.

Podcast by John Brownstone and Kayla Lords, a married couple in a D/s relationship, devoted to power exchange relationships.

Around 300 episodes on communication, expectations, signals and negotiation in everyday D/s dynamics.

The hosts also sell products (shop, Etsy): tell the content apart from the promotion.

Podcast by Tina Horn exploring sex, kink, gender and love, each episode starting from a practice or a desire discussed with a guest.

An archive of 167 episodes, useful for understanding what drives different kink practices, with guests who have first-hand experience.

Last regular episode on 11 June 2024; a trailer for another project was published in the feed in July 2026.

Weekly podcast by Amp Somers and Mr Kristofer, creators of Watts the Safeword, answering questions about sex and kink.

Helps destigmatise kink practices in a relaxed tone, with guests from varied backgrounds.

Humorous tone and frequent digressions; also covers sex work and pornography.

Podcast by rope partners Fox and Mya on bondage, shibari and kinbaku: techniques, news, interviews and listener questions.

Regularly covers safety and negotiation, for example the ability of the person tying to stop a scene (episode 236).

Describes itself as a podcast for adults.

Channel of L’École des Cordes, a French shibari school where Alex DirtyVonP and Lola Lalhow teach.

Videos in French on technical basics and safety, including “Sécurité en Shibari: les bases à connaître avant de pratiquer”.

A commercial school offering paid classes; several videos cover suspension, a high-risk practice that requires in-person learning.

Channel of Place des Cordes, a shibari practice space in the north of Paris, which offers a 16-episode “Initiation au shibari” series.

Several episodes in French cover safety, negotiation, aftercare and taking the time to untie.

All the videos date from April 2017.

French-language channel that presents itself as strictly educational and aims to provide safety information to adults and to combat stereotypes and misinformation.

Short videos in French on dungeon etiquette, creating a profile on kink networks, latex or shibari.

Last video on 29 June 2023. Several videos concern the Montreal scene (Nuit des cordes de Montréal).

Episode 7 of ARTE’s Gymnastique series, which traces how Japanese shibari became a fetish practice and asks what bondage says about social relations of domination.

A short general-knowledge video produced by a public broadcaster, suitable as a first approach to the subject.

Published on 19 June 2023 on the Courts Toujours channel; available until 3 July 2027 according to its description; age-restricted on YouTube.

English-language channel by Evie, who presents herself as a peer educator on kink and alternative lifestyles.

A long “BDSM 101” series (power exchange, bondage, consent, CNC) and weekly live Q&As.

Content in English (YouTube may display automatically translated titles); a peer educator, not a health professional.

English-language channel by Amp Somers and Mr Kristofer that explains kink and sexuality in a humorous tone.

Explainer videos on tricky notions, such as “Consensual Non Consent is Tricky”, and answers to viewers’ questions.

Some videos show off equipment purchases (“hauls”) that amount to promotion.

Channel of the Shibari Study platform, which publishes clips, tips and rope tutorials.

Free videos on safety, such as “General Rope Safety” and “How to check for Nerve Damage during a Rope Scene”.

Promotional channel for a paid platform; lots of short formats.

English-language sex education channel hosted by Dr Lindsey Doe.

A large catalogue of short general sex education videos, useful alongside specialist resources.

Irregular publishing schedule.

Sex education series from the educational channel CrashCourse, published between March and June 2025.

Includes in particular the episodes “What is consent?” (no. 11) and “What is kink?” (no. 15), designed for a broad audience.

Series finished and still online; the CrashCourse channel remains active.

French version of Rope365, a compilation of 365 concepts for learning, practising and exploring erotic rope bondage (shibari, kinbaku).

Free educational content whose “Commencez ici” section covers consent, safety and first steps with rope.

Only the “Commencez ici” and “Fondation” sections are translated; the other links lead to English. The Rope365 YouTube channel was still publishing in July 2026.

French translation of Clover’s guide for people who are tied (models, “rope bottoms”) as well as for people who tie.

Sets out the risks of rope bondage, especially nerve damage, and gives pointers for assessing risks and making informed choices.

Guide distributed free of charge and reproducible for educational purposes; the English version is in its 4th edition, and the date of the French translation is not given. Overview page of the languages: https://theropebottomguide.com/the-rope-bottom-guide/

Article from Sexosafe, a Santé publique France service for cis and trans men who have sex with men, which introduces BDSM and its basic rules.

Stresses trust, the possibility of stopping at any time with a word or a gesture, and spoken communication, and advises against using drugs during play.

Target audience: men who have sex with men; fairly binary “sub / master” vocabulary.

Sheet from the Quebec organisation Les 3 sex* listing a brochure based on collaborative research carried out from 2018 to 2020 with members of Montreal’s BDSM community.

Intended for professionals in health, social services and education, the brochure helps them spot their own biases and adopt a caring stance towards people who practise BDSM.

The brochure itself is not freely available: the sheet says to contact the lead author, Gabrielle Petrucci. The organisation Les 3 sex* is active (10 years old in 2026).

Shibari video tutorial platform bringing together many teachers, with live classes, a glossary and an online community.

Resources organised by level and by body part, useful for progressing methodically after an in-person introduction.

Main access through a paid subscription (free trial advertised); free tutorials are published on its YouTube channel.

Online rope bondage course created by Chris (Topologist) with Rachel Ki, organised by technique category.

An entirely free course, structured by theme, which includes a category devoted to safety.

In English; copyright notices 2010-2026.

Shibari education site created in 2000, offering tutorials and structured courses, from safety basics to advanced techniques.

Free beginner guides covering the scene, consent, risk management and negotiation.

Some of the content and tools (including negotiation cards) are reserved for paying members.

US organisation that defends consenting adults who practise BDSM, swinging or polyamory.

A “Consent Counts” programme on consent, an incident support service and a directory of kink-aware professionals (KAP).

US-focused resource.

NCSF directory listing professionals (psychotherapy, medicine, law, etc.) who declare themselves informed about and respectful of diverse sexualities, including kink and non-monogamy.

Lets you look for a professional you can talk to about your practices without fear of being judged.

Self-declared listings, mostly in the United States; for Switzerland, see also IG-BDSM’s KAP list (help category).

English-language online magazine on sexuality and kink, with a BDSM section and a dictionary of sexuality.

Accessible articles for a first look at many practices and notions.

A site with a commercial side too (shop, links to products); quality varies from one article to another, so cross-check with other sources.

Article from Scarleteen, a sex education site aimed in particular at young people, on the difference between consensual kink and an abusive relationship.

Helps you spot signs of abuse presented as BDSM, starting from the images popularised by Fifty Shades of Grey.

Article published in the context of the release of Fifty Shades of Grey; the Scarleteen site is still publishing (September 2026).

Free tool created by Sinrael for preparing and negotiating a shibari session based on the emotions and experiences sought rather than on techniques.

Helps both partners clarify their expectations before a session, with a downloadable version.

In English; copyright notices 2026.

Translation by Éric Bertrand of The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy, published by Tabou in 2006 (216 pp.).

First part of a two-volume guide that presents the role of the dominant person (“top”) in SM and dismantles misconceptions about it.

Original American edition: Greenery Press, 2003.

Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy translated from American English by Éric Bertrand, published by Tabou in 2007 (189 pp.).

Second part of the guide begun with L’Art de dominer, devoted to the place of the person who submits (“bottom”).

The catalogue record does not give the original title; the publisher presents the book as the second part of the guide whose first part translates The New Topping Book, which corresponds to The New Bottoming Book (to be confirmed from the book itself). Listed as in stock at Tabou in October 2026.

Updated edition of Thierry Albert’s translation of The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton, published by Éditions de l’Éveil in 2021 (351 pp.).

A reference work on non-exclusive relationships (“avoir plusieurs amoureux, les respecter et se respecter”), useful for questions of agreements and communication between partners.

A first translation appeared under the title La Salope éthique (Tabou, 2013), BnF record: https://catalogue.bnf.fr/ark:/12148/cb435679187.

Short prevention guide on BDSM written by Wendy Delorme, published by Tabou in 2006 (63 pp.).

A risk-reduction guide written directly in French, in pocket format.

An older book: availability from the publisher not confirmed, and some health information may be out of date.

Handbook by Axelle de Sade and Meta Tshiteya, illustrated by Stella Polaris, published by Éditions Anne Carrière in 2024 (353 pp.).

A recent guide in French to kink practices, with a glossary, a bibliography and a list of online resources.

Axelle de Sade founded the École des arts sadiens, a private organisation.

Manual by Steph Doe and Alex DirtyVonP published by Libertine éditions in 2019 (187 pp.), followed by a second volume in 2020.

An illustrated manual in French combining techniques, intentions and exercises, co-written by a teacher at L’École des Cordes.

Vol. 2: https://catalogue.bnf.fr/ark:/12148/cb46654740h. The publisher’s website could not be consulted. A book is no substitute for in-person learning.

Sociological study of sadomasochism by Véronique Poutrain, published by Belin in 2003 (175 pp.).

An academic approach in French to SM practices, useful for getting past clichés.

A book from 2003: the community landscape has changed a great deal since.

Guide by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy for people who take the dominant role, published by Greenery Press in 2003 (revised edition).

A reference text of English-language BDSM literature, available in French under the title L’Art de dominer.

Guide by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy for people who take the submissive role, published by Greenery Press in 2001 (revised edition).

Companion to The New Topping Book, focused on the needs, limits and communication of the “bottom”.

Introduction to BDSM by Jay Wiseman, whose 2nd edition was published by Greenery Press in 1996.

A standard introductory work covering negotiation, safety and first steps.

An older book: some medical and technical recommendations may have changed.

Guide by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams to discovering, understanding and exploring kink, leather and BDSM communities, published by Greenery Press in 2012.

Useful for approaching munches, events and community codes with your eyes open.

Guide by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton to polyamory, open relationships and other sexual and romantic freedoms, whose revised and expanded 3rd edition was published by Ten Speed Press in 2017.

A reference on communication, agreements and respect in non-exclusive relationships.

French translations: see L’éthique des amours plurielles.

Edited volume by Brandy L. Simula, Robin Bauer and Liam Wignall, published by Oxford University Press in 2023 (xxii-310 pp.).

A recent academic overview of play, communities and consent in contemporary BDSM.

Book by Hypatia From Space, a Montreal blogger who writes about polyamory, self-published in 2017 and written in French; an English version, Compersion: Polyamory Beyond Jealousy, followed in 2018.

Devoted to compersion, the joy felt at a partner’s happiness with someone else: it helps you identify your own needs in order to cultivate it, and to support partners and metamours. Useful when a BDSM relationship is not exclusive.

The author combines her research on compersion with her personal experience: this is not an academic work. A self-published book: the link leads to the sheet from the Quebec organisation Les 3 sex*, which in 2020 reported it on sale in a Montreal bookshop. For a research-based approach, in English: What Is Compersion? by Marie Thouin (Rowman & Littlefield, 2024).

Comic essay by Swedish author Liv Strömquist (Kunskapens frukt, 2014), translated by Kirsi Kinnunen and published by Rackham in 2016 (144 pp.).

Traces, with acid humour, how doctors, philosophers, Church Fathers and sexologists have fed shame and misconceptions about female genitals and women’s pleasure. Also tackles the taboo around periods.

Listed as in stock at Rackham in October 2026. An openly feminist point of view and a satirical tone: it is an essay of ideas, not a manual.

Comic essay by Liv Strömquist (Prins Charles känsla, 2010), translated by Kirsi Kinnunen and Stéphane Dubois, published by Rackham in 2012 and reissued in 2016 (136 pp.).

Drawing on famous couples, philosophers and historical facts, it shows that romantic roles owe more to social norms than to an unchanging human nature, and invites readers to think about relationships outside the norm of the heterosexual, monogamous couple.

The link leads to the 2016 reissue, listed as in stock at Rackham in October 2026. The author’s first book translated into French.

Comic essay by Liv Strömquist (Den rödaste rosen slår ut), translated by Kirsi Kinnunen and published by Rackham in 2019 (176 pp.).

Examines how people fall in love today, the fear of commitment and heartbreak, drawing on sociology, ancient myths and popular culture. The title borrows a line from the poet Hilda Doolittle, who championed free love.

Listed as out of stock at Rackham in October 2026: look for it in a library or second-hand. On the body, the same author published Dans le palais des miroirs (Rackham, 2021), on the contemporary ideal of female beauty.

Illustrated handbook by Jüne Plã, creator of the Instagram account Jouissance Club, published by Marabout in 2020.

Describes, with diagrams, many ways to give pleasure without making penetration a required step, going against the “foreplay, intercourse, ejaculation” script. Useful for broadening your repertoire and talking about it with your partners.

Listed as available from Marabout in October 2026; a deluxe edition came out the same year. The diagrams depict sexual acts in a stylised way. A general sex education book, not focused on BDSM.

Novel published in 1954 by Jean-Jacques Pauvert under the pseudonym Pauline Réage, with a preface by Jean Paulhan, “Le bonheur dans l’esclavage”. The author, Anne Desclos (aka Dominique Aury), only acknowledged writing it in 1994, in The New Yorker. Current edition: Fayard, 2012 (267 pp.).

A classic of French erotic literature, winner of the Prix des Deux Magots in 1955, adapted for the cinema by Just Jaeckin (1975) and as a comic by Guido Crepax. Reading it helps you measure the gap between a literary fantasy and a negotiated practice.

Fiction, not a model. O is taken by her lover to a château where she is handed over to other men, then “given” to Sir Stephen: her consent is presented as total surrender, with no limits discussed, up to and including permanent marks on her body; one of the endings considered is her death, to which Sir Stephen consents. Paulhan’s preface praises a book in which a woman “admits” that women “simply need a good master”. Feminist critics, including Susan Griffin and Andrea Dworkin, saw in it violence turned against oneself; the author presented it as a love letter to Jean Paulhan. Listed as available from Fayard in October 2026.

Unfinished novel by Donatien Alphonse François de Sade, written in the Bastille in 1785 on a roll of paper and first published in 1904; the manuscript entered the BnF collections in 2021. Paperback edition: Le Tripode, Météores collection, preface by Annie Le Brun (2014, reprinted in 2024, 512 pp.).

A central work by the writer whose name gave us the word “sadism”. Of interest for the history of words and ideas, not for practice.

A text of extreme violence. Four libertine aristocrats shut themselves away with forty-two victims, including eight boys and eight girls aged 12 to 15, and the narrative describes sexual violence, torture and murder, including of these children. None of the victims consents: nothing to do with consensual practices. The publisher itself presents the work as “impossible to read without disquiet”. Reprint released in June 2024 in Le Tripode’s catalogue.

Series of novels by John Norman, the pen name of American philosophy professor John Frederick Lange, which began in 1966 with Tarnsman of Gor. In French, part of the series was published by Opta from 1975, then by J’ai lu (Le Tarnier de Gor, translated by Arlette Rosenblum, 1992).

The series gave rise to a “Gorean” subculture (online role-play, master/slave relationships lived as a lifestyle) whose codes and vocabulary, such as kajira for “slave”, circulate in some kink spaces: knowing it helps you recognise them.

The novels repeat the same pattern: a woman, often abducted from Earth, is humiliated, beaten, raped, branded and enslaved, then ends up content with it, all carried by the idea that submission is in women’s nature. The Encyclopedia of Science Fiction speaks of a widely detested “sexual philosophy”, and the publisher DAW stopped publishing the series in 1988. Gorean subculture takes up this hierarchy between men and women, which sets it apart from a BDSM based on negotiated and revocable consent; some BDSM communities keep their distance from it, and John Norman himself said in 2011 that he set himself apart from BDSM. The French translations appear not to have been reissued since 2006 (J’ai lu).

Short novel by the Austrian writer Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, published in 1870. Rivages poche edition, translated from German and with a preface by Nicolas Waquet (2009, 217 pp.).

The text behind the word “masochism”, coined from the author’s name by the psychiatrist Richard von Krafft-Ebing in his Psychopathia Sexualis (1886). Séverin and Wanda already govern their relationship with a written contract.

The novel’s contract is nothing like a negotiation in today’s sense: it sets out absolute submission, without limits, and it is Séverin who pushes Wanda into a role she says several times that she finds exhausting. The relationship falls apart when Wanda has Séverin, tied up, whipped by the Greek man she has fallen for. The conclusion describes woman as man’s “slave” or “despot” as long as she is not his equal in rights. The word “masochism” was born in a psychiatric work that classed this desire among the perversions, a use of his name that Sacher-Masoch disapproved of. Listed as available from Rivages in October 2026. Another useful edition: Présentation de Sacher-Masoch by Gilles Deleuze, with the full text of the novel (Minuit, 1967), https://catalogue.bnf.fr/ark:/12148/cb37366213f

Shibari and bondage practice group based in the canton of Vaud, between Lausanne and Geneva, which meets in small groups in a studio in Crissier.

Offers introductions, classes, rope jams and rope picnics, with a public calendar (next rope jam announced for 11 October 2026).

The site’s presentation describes the practice in gendered terms (male rigger, female partner), which does not reflect the diversity of practices. Registration via the site.

Swiss non-profit association that brings together people who practise and teach shibari and organises classes, workshops and rope jams in French-speaking Switzerland.

Publishes a charter governing consent, safety and responsibilities at its events, as well as a report on rope strength tests.

Events in French-speaking Switzerland (Lausanne, Vevey, Bulle, Geneva), including the Forum des Cordes in Vevey. Paid private lessons.

Informal monthly meet-up, on a Thursday early in the evening in a Lausanne bar, for people interested in BDSM.

Lets you meet the community in a public place, with no pressure and no dress code; people coming for the first time can arrive 30 minutes early and be accompanied.

Dates published on IG-BDSM’s calendar. The address is only given after you sign up for the event on FetLife.

Fribourg munch that alternates between a meet-up open to all ages and a “Munch +35” for people aged 35 and over, whether novice, experienced or curious.

A get-together over a drink in an atmosphere the organisers want to be kind, tolerant and respectful.

Check the next dates on IG-BDSM’s calendar before you go.

Trilingual munch (French, German, English) in Biel/Bienne for people interested in BDSM and alternative sexualities.

A meeting point accessible to French speakers for the Biel region and the Bernese Jura.

Trilingual meet-ups; check the next dates on IG-BDSM’s calendar.

Valais munch for people who want to talk about unconventional sexualities (BDSM, kink, fetishism), in a spirit of kindness and discovery.

The only munch identified in Valais, with an openly queer orientation.

Recent activity uncertain: check the calendar before you go.

Swiss association that provides a platform and representation for people interested in BDSM, with a national calendar, a Discord forum and information sessions for beginners.

Its calendar also lists munches and workshops in French-speaking Switzerland, and the association keeps a Swiss list of kink-aware professionals (KAP).

Site in German; offers information sessions for beginners.

Paris association under the 1901 law, founded in 2008 and born out of the first munch in France (2006), whose purpose is to promote prevention and safety rules linked to fetish and BDSM practices.

Organises three monthly munches and workshops, including “Premiers pas dans le BDSM” sessions and introductions to rope.

Regular workshops; paid annual membership.

Lyon association that promotes shibari practice and offers a structured programme, workshops and training sessions.

Emphasises safe rope practice, with a structured beginner programme spread over several months.

No website of its own: HelloAsso page. Beginner programme over several months.

Shibari practice and teaching association based near Nancy (Pont-Saint-Vincent).

Introductions, classes by level and supervised practice sessions, with inclusivity, safety and consent as stated principles.

No website of its own: HelloAsso page. Regular workshops since its relaunch in 2025.

Group that organises monthly meet-ups at the Rainbow House in Brussels to talk about BDSM, reserved for women, with trans people explicitly welcome.

A women-only space for experienced or curious women, with a commitment to confidentiality.

Few events visible recently: contact the group before you go.

Montreal organisation that celebrates leather and latex culture within the LGBT+ community and promotes fraternity, respect and inclusivity.

Offers community events, including a free historical walk through the Village and BDSM workshops (October 2026).

Page on the Zeffy donation platform; some events are play parties for adults only. Also listed among the community organisations of Fierté Montréal.

National victim support website, reachable throughout Switzerland on 142 since 1 May 2026, for people who have experienced physical, psychological or sexual violence.

Free, confidential and anonymous advice, and referral to the cantonal LAVI centres.

142 is not an emergency number: in case of imminent danger, call the police (117) or emergency services (144), as the site states.

Official page of the Confederation and the cantons listing the Swiss emergency numbers: 112, police 117, ambulance 144, La Main Tendue 143.

The official reference for knowing whom to call in case of immediate danger or injury.

Listening service reachable on 143, by chat and by email, day and night, in a personal, anonymous and confidential way.

Lets you talk about a difficult situation or a bad experience, at any hour.

Calls cost 20 to 70 centimes according to ch.ch.

Swiss information site on intimate partner violence where specialists personally answer anonymous questions, normally within three working days.

Sections for people who experience, commit or witness violence, with a specific LGBTIQA+ page, useful when a relationship presented as D/s becomes abusive.

In an emergency: police 117, ambulance 144.

Volunteer contact point, from the Swiss bondage scene, for people who have had a negative experience or an injury during a rope session.

Offers discreet conversations with riggers, models, legal professionals, doctors or psychologists, a FAQ in French, and refers people to emergency services or a psychologist if needed.

Multilingual site (FR, DE, EN) whose interface first displays in English; contact by email; also covers Belgium, and the German section is disabled according to the site. A peer network: it replaces neither professional help nor a formal complaint.

French government platform against sexist and sexual violence, which refers people to 3919 (Violences Femmes Info) and 17 (Police secours).

Also lets you report online violence, find an association and erase your browsing history.

Federation of victim support associations reachable on 116 006, a free call 7 days a week.

Listening and referral to a local association for victims of physical, sexual or psychological violence and their loved ones.

Helpline of the Collectif féministe contre le viol, reachable on 0 800 05 95 95 from Monday to Friday, 10:00 to 19:00.

Listening and information for victims of rape or sexual assault, their loved ones and professionals.

Belgian helpline on domestic violence, reachable on the free, anonymous number 0800 30 030 or by chat.

Helps put words to a situation of violence in a relationship and find out about the resources available.

Brussels association working against sexual violence since 1980, reachable on 0800 98 100 (free, anonymous call) and by chat.

Support from specialists for victims of sexual violence and their loved ones.

Belgian centres that offer multidisciplinary care to victims of sexual violence and advice to the people supporting them.

An entry point for care after a sexual assault, with information for victims, loved ones and professionals.

Official site of the Belgian emergency numbers: 112 for an ambulance or the fire brigade, 101 for urgent police assistance.

The official reference in case of immediate danger.

Quebec domestic violence helpline, free, anonymous and confidential, reachable 24 hours a day on 1 800 363-9010, by text on 438-601-1211 and by online chat.

Helps you assess your situation and find help, including for loved ones and support workers.

Quebec listening, information and support line for people affected by sexual violence, reachable on 1 888 933-9007 or by online chat.

Points people to resources suited to their needs.

Quebec government page explaining when and how to use 911.

The official reference in case of immediate danger.

Survivor-led Boston organisation working against partner abuse in LGBTQ+, kink and polyamorous communities.

Its page on kink communities helps you tell a negotiated, consensual dynamic apart from an abusive relationship.

24-hour helpline in the United States (617-742-4911 or 800-832-1901); from Europe, useful mainly as an information resource.

NCSF service that assists individuals, groups and businesses facing problems directly related to BDSM, swinging or polyamory between consenting adults.

Normally responds within two days and can refer you to mediation, community support or kink-aware assistance.

A US service; does not provide legal aid or individual legal advice.

Swiss list of BDSM-aware professionals (health, therapy, law, etc.), maintained by the association IG-BDSM.

Helps you find a trustworthy person in Switzerland who will not pass judgement on BDSM practices.

In German; the professionals listed are mostly in German-speaking Switzerland.